3 Truths About “Why Me” Moments

Hi, friend. I see you over there, drowning in the existential soup of “Why me?” And listen, it’s valid. Chronic illness hit you like a meteor, and now you’re just trying to figure out how to dodge the next one. I get it. The thing is, I care about your “why me” because it’s part of the process—and honestly, I’ve been there too.

Let’s dig into this together. I’m not here to throw sunshine up your bum or tell you “everything happens for a reason” (because seriously, if I hear that one more time, I might flip a table). Instead, let’s talk about why it’s normal to feel this way and how we can move forward—at your pace, with your goals, and maybe a few laughs along the way.

1. It’s Totally Okay to Feel This Way

Let’s just call it what it is: sucksville. Chronic illness is a jerk, and it has no business ruining your day, your plans, or your life. But here we are. Feeling sad, mad, or a little existential is not only okay—it’s expected. You’re grieving the life you thought you’d have, and that grief deserves space.

So, if you want to scream into a pillow or ugly cry while watching sad dog commercials, you have my full support. The important part? Let yourself feel it without guilt. You’re human, and humans are messy.

2. It’s Not Forever (Even If It Feels Like It)

The “why me” stage isn’t a permanent address—it’s a pit stop. And trust me, you’re not moving in for good. Over time (and maybe with a little help), we’ll work on shifting that “why me” into “okay, what’s next?” But no rush. Your timeline is yours.

Also, if anyone tells you to “just stay positive,” you have my permission to give them the look. You know the one. We’re about being real here, not faking smiles.

3. Finding the Silver Linings (Without Gagging on Them)

I’m not here to sugarcoat your struggle, but I am here to remind you there’s still good stuff out there. Maybe it’s tiny—like discovering your favorite pajamas are clean—or maybe it’s big, like finally getting in to see that amazing specialist. Life is all about balance. We must celebrate the wins along with acknowledge the tough bits.

Final Thoughts (AKA the Pep Talk)

You didn’t sign up for this, but you still show up. That’s strength. It might not feel like it, but the fact that you’re here, reading this, and maybe even considering next steps? That’s badass.

We’ll figure this out together, one step (or couch nap) at a time. And if you ever need a reminder of how amazing you are, just ask—I’ll send it in all caps.

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